What’s The Fine Print?…
The truth is, affirmations don’t work for anyone and can potentially work against you.
Like most things in life, there is no “cookie cutter” solution for everyone. Positive affirmations may not work for some people but, there is usually an underlying reason why affirmations can have little to no effect or worse, negative effects.
When trying positive affirmations, you need to believe what you are saying…or, feel you can eventually believe what you are saying. If you have an extremely negative attitude and try repeating “I am happy”, of course your subconscious is going to consider the attempt a joke!
The point is, when attempting positive affirmations, make sure they are realistic and believable to you.
For example, you love to cook and host events but, you struggle with anxiety and perfectionism which can ruin the entire experience. The next time you plan to host a dinner, prior to or when you start to feel warning signs, you tell yourself “I love cooking and I’m a great host. I’m going to have a great time and everything is ok”. This is a great example of a positive affirmation that can work!
Now, let’s look at one more example. You hate broccoli. You’ve hated broccoli since you were a kid but you know it’s good for you. You cook a large helping of broccoli, sit down at the dinner table and tell yourself “I enjoy broccoli so much”…NOT. This is an example of an affirmation that’s doomed to fail. It’s not realistic or believable; you know you don’t like broccoli and trying to force it on yourself can lead to negative emotions. A better avenue might be to say “I keep an open mind when trying new vegetables” and stay positive towards finding other alternatives greens.
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