To Affirm...

Or Not to Affirm...

Excellent Question!

“Any thought that is passed on to the subconscious often enough and convincingly enough is finally accepted.” 

– Robert Collier

First, What Are Affirmations?…

In short, positive affirmations are spoken statements which are often repeated in order to encourage and uplift one’s self.

There is a great deal of research showing affirmations can impact positive change. However, there are many opinions on affirmations and how to correctly utilize them.

Affirmations have been shown to stimulate the areas in our brains that make us more likely to effect positive changes in regard to our health.

Science Backed 

For example, several studies suggest that affirmations can help you perform better at work.

According to research, spending a few minutes thinking about your best qualities before a high-pressure meeting, can calm your nerves, boost confidence, and improve your chances of a successful outcome.

What’s The Fine Print?…

The truth is, affirmations don’t work for anyone and can potentially work against you.

Like most things in life, there is no “cookie cutter” solution for everyone.  Positive affirmations may not work for some people but, there is usually an underlying reason why affirmations can have little to no effect or worse, negative effects.

When trying positive affirmations, you need to believe what you are saying…or, feel you can eventually believe what you are saying. If you have an extremely negative attitude and try repeating “I am happy”, of course your subconscious is going to consider the attempt a joke!

The point is, when attempting positive affirmations, make sure they are realistic and believable to you.

For example, you love to cook and host events but, you struggle with anxiety and perfectionism which can ruin the entire experience.  The next time you plan to host a dinner, prior to or when you start to feel warning signs, you tell yourself “I love cooking and I’m a great host. I’m going to have a great time and everything is ok”.  This is a great example of a positive affirmation that can work!

Now, let’s look at one more example. You hate broccoli. You’ve hated broccoli since you were a kid but you know it’s good for you. You cook a large helping of broccoli, sit down at the dinner table and tell yourself “I enjoy broccoli so much”…NOT. This is an example of an affirmation that’s doomed to fail.  It’s not realistic or believable; you know you don’t like broccoli and trying to force it on yourself can lead to negative emotions. A better avenue might be to say “I keep an open mind when trying new vegetables” and stay positive towards finding other alternatives greens.

Let’s review a few examples of some general statements you may have even said to yourself in the past vs, the corrected version in a positive affirmation format.

Less Powerful

“I am not afraid”

“I do not compare myself to others”

“I’m not worried about money”

“I won’t overeat today”

“I will not let the negativity of others affect me”

“I am not going to fall off the ladder”

Corrections

“I AM BRAVE”

“I AM PROUD OF MYSELF”

“I AM FINANCIALLY STABLE”

“I EAT WHEN I’M HUNGRY”

“I STAY STRONG & POSITIVE”

“MY GOAL IS IMPORTANT I AM GOING TO SUCCEED”

Give affirmations a real try; stay true to your spirit and remember, practice makes perfect!

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